In the early years after the death of my husband there was at least one person in my bereavement group that raised an eyebrow when I disclosed that God had given me three close friends who were also therapists...
... and I will disclose to you (at the risk of your raised and questioning eyebrow) that just hours ago I asked all three for insight and reached out to my accountability partner too. I am distraught.
Today I am the woman behind the mirror. I am feeling trapped.
The chaos that is COVID-19 touched my life (touched all our lives) then took me down for a count and retreated into the shadows and even now is lurking there.
I gave up hugging and playing with my grandchildren, and instead left gifts on the porch, smiling and waving through the windows.
I complied with the distancing and mask protocols at local businesses and friends' homes.
I gave up cash and used a debit card.
I experienced the symptoms listed on the CDC website, consulted my healthcare POA designee and self-quarantined, then sought out and received written confirmation of a POSITIVE Antibody Test Result.
I worshiped at a nondenominational church that created space for wearing masks or not, and fostered respect for those who chose like me and those who chose differently.
I endured being verbally accosted in a restaurant by someone whose views I shared (no mask) because I was choosing to wear a mask.
I now habitually keep appropriate social distances in check-out lines and give wide berth to those who are wearing masks.
I am self-employed so did not face the choice to vaccinate or be terminated, yet I grieve with and pray with friends who are weighing that choice.
I felt and feel empathy, caution and sorrow, but no fear.
That is, until today, when a text arrived, "The venue has asked our ticket holders to review the COVID-19 policy."
My desire is to see my adult daughter perform in Elf the Musical this coming November. The venue's COVID-19 policy stands in the way of my plans. I am angry and quite cognizant that my anger is almost always driven by fear.
I am not a good sheep quietly grazing in a lush pasture. I find that I do not trust the earthly shepherds.
I am wrestling within myself, holding fiercely to my belief that to be vaccinated is a freedom of choice issue. I find myself bristling like a porcupine at the pressure to conform.
I experienced the same chaos when just six weeks after the September 11 attacks Congress passed the USA/Patriot Act, an overnight revision of the nation's surveillance laws. I felt fear.
I experienced the same chaos when my husband and I refused to press charges against a young woman, and the "evidence" was twisted implicating me in a misdemeanor. The district attorney brought me in multiple times during the year that followed, threatening to charge me with a felony when I refused to plead guilty to the misdemeanor of his choosing. I refused conformity. I felt fear.
This morning, the venue's demand that I be
tested or vaccinated collided with my desire to support and appreciate the arts.
The chaos of COVID-19 had found the weapon painful enough to push me toward
conformity.
I confirmed by reading the venue's policy that proof of the presence of antibodies will not be sufficient to give me access to the building. I confirmed by phone that all 1200 seats are available for each of the performances, rejecting the CDC recommendation for social distancing.
I researched my options. I spoke with people who are intelligent and informed and trusted.
I ordered three tickets for Elf the Musical.
I made peace with the idea of giving these tickets away.
I am moving forward, not by conforming, but by becoming better informed.
I may submit to the policy.
I may stand outside the door with a sign that reads, "They won't let me in."
I contemplate the cost of conformity and weep as I am reminded of the writings of Martin Niemoller: "First they came for the socialist, and I did not speak out-- because I was not a socialist. Then they came for the trade unionist, and I did not speak-- because I was not a trade unionist. Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out-- because I was not a Jew. Then they came for me-- and there was no one left to speak for me."
I contemplate rebellion and remember the words of the New York Times best-selling author Jordan B. Peterson: "A certain amount of creativity and rebellion must be tolerated--or welcomed, depending on your point of view--to maintain the process of regeneration. Every rule was once a creative act, breaking other rules."
I look at the calendar and count out eight months... the window most researchers speculate is the length of time the natural antibodies will be present.
I think about the risk of adverse reaction to injecting a vaccine in month seven while these antibodies are naturally occurring within me.
I look at the recommendations and policies of another venue with which I am familiar and count out the 14 days prior to the performance recommended for those of us who may choose to vaccinate in order to attend.
I research the risks and benefits of the available vaccines and select a local medical provider that could facilitate.
As the sun moves beyond the horizon and the night sky darkens, I read from the Psalms, taking in the ancient wisdom and giving my fear to God.
Praise the LORD. Praise the LORD, my soul. I will praise the LORD all my life; I will sing praise to my God as long as I live. Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save. When their spirit departs, they return to the ground; on that very day their plans come to nothing. Bless are those whose help is in the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the LORD their God... (more)
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